Friday, October 28, 2011

Bow Chicka Bow Wow

So, you have a choice.  For this week's post, I can either whine about the prefecture and the types of requirements that make me feel like I must produce both the chicken and the egg simultaneously...

OR

food porn.

I'll give you a second to decide.

Ok, food porn it is!
I think you made the right choice.

Last weekend, Tour Guide Barbie popped up from Tours for the day to accompany us to Paris' annual Salon du Chocolat.  As a friend remarked, "Only in Paris would they be able to fill an entire expo center with chocolate and sweets vendors." And fill they did.  Here are the highlights:

Two words: free samples.  AH, TGB and I easily ate enough chocolate to cover our 12 euro ticket, and also to count for several day's caloric intake.  And yes, that is just a giant block of dark chocolate that that man is chipping shavings off of and distributing.

The creativity that was evident in the different chocolate creations.  Dude, I can't eat chocolate Easter Bunnies because they're too darn cute; how am I supposed to eat Krush here?  Speaking of creativity...

There was a CHOCOLATE FASHION SHOW (at which we were clearly not in the front row, but hey, you get the idea).  Seeing those costumes up close afterwards (after my phone/camera battery had died, alas), I can attest that the swan does appear to be made mostly from chocolate.  I wasn't sure if I wanted to eat it, wear it, or cast it in my Bird Soap Opera.

Huzzah!  "Vegetables" that I will eat.  Side note, it never ceases to amaze me that I was a successful vegetarian for several years before moving to France, seeing as how my diet now is mostly meat, bread, cheese and chocolate.

It's true; France is just one giant 13-year-old boy.

And finally, just in case we forgot where we are...
Lavender: check.  Striped shirt: check.  Berets (plural!): check.  Man in loopy scarf: check.  Chocolate: check.  PDA and haughty expressions: check.  French flag (top left, most of it got cut off): check.  You know, just in case you thought that you'd fallen into a chocolate covered worm-hole and ended up in South Dakota.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Scarves, Manpurses and Pointy Shoes

A vespa darts in and out of traffic, the riders' bodies pressed against one another as the wind rushes by, their facial hair chafing slightly from the rub of the helmets.

A well dressed Parisian walks down the street, perfectly coiffed and bronzed from a recent trip to Marseilles, pointed shoes clicking on the cobblestones, his adams apple rising just above his expertly tied, brightly patterned scarf.  

Oh, yes.  I have to ask myself this question many, many times a day:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=PpFlR5t4WGw

Once upon a time, not long after AH and I had begun our courtship, he showed me a picture of a Certain Young Man.  Upon seeing CYM, this conversation transpired:

Me:  Hmm, does he have a girlfriend?
AH: Not that I know of...
Me: Has he ever had a girlfriend?
AH: I think he went to prom with a girl.
Me: Yep, he's gay.
AH: He is not!
Me: Yes, he is.  He's an attractive college guy with no girlfriend, and he's CARRYING A MANPURSE.

Turns out, Certain Young Man is, in fact, gay.  Ah, there was a time in my not-so-distant past that the presence of a manpurse or a scarf tied with a bit of extra flourish was a dead give-away.  But it's things like this that throw my gay-dar into total flux:


That, my friends, is (in addition to one disapproving security guard) the inside of BHV Homme.  For some context, BHV is the closest thing to a Macy's in Paris, so it's pretty mainstream.  So this is no niche boutique tucked back in the Marais; this is a major department store, and they have an ENTIRE MANPURSE SECTION.  Not just a few "laptop bags" quietly tucked away somewhere, not just a few more gender-neutral options hiding in amongst the ladies' handbags.  Nope, options, variety...normalcy.

For the record, now that I've got AH shackeld to me forevermore (lovingly, I hope), my gaydar no longer has a purpose as I no longer need to sort potential mates from potential Project Runway-watching buddies.  However, Europe's way of screwing with my American-grown preconceptions of masculinity has had some interesting results.  One of these has been the way that AH and I think about what constitutes appropriate clothing for men.  AH, being a physics type, has never been one to venture much beyond: A) functional clothes that he can fix lasers in, and B) slightly nicer clothes that I force him to buy so that we can be seen in public together.  (Yes, this may sound shrewish and cliche, a woman who dresses her man. But ask me sometime what AH wore on our first date.  I DARE YOU).  But not long after moving here, he (of his own volition!) suggested that it was time to replace the ratty Old Navy scarf that I had bought for him the first Christmas we were dating.  He even suggested buying something that (again, *gasp*) might cost more than 5 euros! And (*GASPGASPGASP*) something with pattern and/or color!!  

And then he realized that he didn't want to spend 50 euros on a scarf that would get him mocked ceaselessly when we return home.

And you know what was extra fun?  Finding myself in the middle of a conversation about this very subject with a (very well-dressed) Frenchman at church and trying not to sound like an asshat:

Me:  It's so nice that men dress up so much here!  
Frenchy: Do men not dress nicely in America?
Me: It's not that they look like slobs, but men typically don't want to appear as though they've put thought into the way that the look.
Frenchy: Why not?
Me: Well, because people might assume things about them...
Frenchy: *Not getting it* Like what?
Me: *Oh noes* like, who they like to date. Or, you know, not date.
Frenchy:....
Me: Um, ifamandresseswellinAmericapeoplethinkit'sbecausehelikesdatingothermen.
Frenchy: *Pause* OH! *Pause* Why?

A terrific question!  And one that I am, sadly, in no way equipped to answer.  However, I will end with one final plea:  can manpurses PLEASE begin to make an appearance in more American men's closets?  Because I'll bet that Frenchwomen never return home with their purses ten pounds heavier because they've spent their evening hearing, "babe, can you just put this in your purse?".  So c'mon, American Dudes, man up and buy a purse.  You'll be giving your lady a break, and yourself some European mystique.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

"There's Paris, and There's the Rest of France"



...or so a wise friend of mine recently said to me.  And it's true.  While Paris is lovely, the countryside is a beautiful breath of fresh air (literally- if anyone's urinating outdoors, there's enough open space for it to waft in another direction.  Cramped metro platform, not so much).  And wow, were AH and I in desperate need of  green grass, pumpkins, and a few scattered barnyard animals.

Have you ever seen that old vaudeville act where someone spins a bunch of plates on top of poles, and every time they get one going, they have to go tend to another before it crashes and fall?  Yes, AH and I have been doing that, except we are both clumsy, and mostly we've ended up with broken plates.  Broken, expensive plates.  And stitches from where we sliced ourselves picking up shards of broken plates.

In case you're in any sort of suspense, we are fine now, everything has (more or less) settled down to something resembling as much of a normal life as we ever have.  But to give a quick recap, in the past few weeks we have: flown in and out of New York for a wedding (yeah!), had to temporarily pack up and move out of our apartment (boo!), had mercy taken on us by people who barely know us and let us sleep in their apartments (yeah!), tried to get things done at the prefecture, aka The Place That Convinces Me That Ye Olde Catholics Were Right About Purgatory (boo!), AND used our homelessness as an excuse to visit Tours (yeah!) but almost didn't get down due to a train strike (boo!) because an SNCF worker got stabbed (double boo!), thus we were stuck in Gare Austerlitz for FIVE HOURS (extra boo, but not as much boo as when that guy got stabbed!).

And so it is the next to last part that I would like to focus on (the part where we went to Tours, not the part where someone got stabbed), because it was such a lovely little holiday in the midst of a total clustercluck. We are lucky enough to know someone who lives and studies in Tours, has an adorable apartment with a fouton, and (extra yay!) speaks French and thus is an invaluable travel buddy.  AH and I, not generally excel spreadsheet type planners on the best of occasions, were in an especially unprepared haze of uselessness.  Luckily, though, our lovely Tour Guide Barbie is not only knowledgeable but also imbued with a healthy sense of adventure.  So when we arrived at Gare de Tours at noon to discover that there was no train to Villandry (our chosen destination) until 2 o'clock, we were all (miraculously, even me) up for taking a 12:30 to the little town of Savonierre, which we knew was vaguely in the area of where we wanted to end up.

We were prepared for the fact that Savonierre was probably not a well-connected hotspot.  We were correct:

This, my friends, was the train station.  No ticket machine. No maps.  No buildings.  This was the extent of the amenities of the Savonierre train station:
We did pass a pleasant half hour here eating the spoils of our morning boulangerie outing (carbs, cheese, carbs, cured meat, and chocolate). After lunch, we consulted the GPS on my phone to get a rough idea of where we were heading, and off we trekked, garnering confused looks from locals as we went.  I can only imagine what it would be like to be driving down a road in your little rural town and see three strangers, two of whom are photographing this:
Yup, those are snails.  I was fascinated.  But I can imagine that the locals' reactions were something akin to what mine every time I see groups of Japanese tourists photographing the cement corn fields in my hometown.  

It turned out to be a lovely, invigorating, 4 km walk.  At times we weren't exactly on what you might call a "path meant in any way for pedestrians," but eh, we lived to tell the tale.  And after our first stretch of country road, we came upon what we guessed to be downtown Savonierre (our guess was population: 200):

Lovely, no?  A small river town tucked away in the Loire, with back yards and buildings that looked like they were created on a sound stage somewhere.  At one point, AH spied a set of stairs leading up the hillside, and we agreed that we would investigate.  Alas, they were in someone's backyard, and I don't think trespassing is one of those things you can use your ignorant tourist card on (at least when the object of your desire is behind a locked fence).  But we did see friendly critters, like this fellow here:
Don't you just want to snorgle him?  Tour Guide Barbie did not, as she has an utter fear of almost all living, non-human creatures, but I was a fan.  The town was actually teeming with critters.  I got really excited when I saw a coop full of what looked like mourning doves, and was getting ready to take a picture, when I saw an old French woman in an apron at her back door, slowly drying a dish and giving me a witheringly disapproving glare as only an old French woman can do.  I tucked my camera away and quickly moved on.

About 20 more minutes of country road and we arrived relatively unscathed at our destination: Chateau Villandry.  This being France, and Villandry being a chateau, I'm sure you know the drill by now: breath-taking gardens, opulent interiors, paintings that cost more than what I will make in many years put together. And I thoroughly enjoyed myself, as did AH and TGB.  AH and I also enjoyed Chateau Amboise and the nearby Clos Luce (where Leonardo da Vinci spent the last three years of his life; full-scale models of his inventions await visitors in the garden) the next day. 

But somehow, it was an unscripted adventure through the countryside (complete with snails, sheep and disapproving old French women) that I think I'll be telling stories about for a long time to come.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Crazytimebunnies

Alas, I will need to skip my posting for this week because I've been in and out of the country, and I'm about to be in and out of Paris.  But rest assured, all the joys of the Frenchy French will return as of next Tuesday. Stay tuned.